Half the harm that is done in this world
Is due to people who want to feel important.
They don't mean to do harm
But the harm does not interest them
Or they do not see it, or they justify it
Because they are absorbed in the endless struggle
To think well of themselves.
T. S. Eliot
Narcissists
There are things more important in this world than adjusting to a sick person’s reality - your spirit, your health, your dignity. All are more important. Narcissists get their power from people who don't understand that: people who are willing to be held hostage and that's the ultimate lesson narcissists have to teach. You need to embrace all that you are and learn to not apologize for being a flawed, but essentially loving and good human being. This person is in your life to teach you that. There is nothing more important than protecting and loving YOU.
Healthy people accept the things they cannot change, take responsibility for their own stuff and let go of the rest. They recognize unhealthy and they turn and walk away from it, at all costs. When you choose fear over love, you can only draw negative, toxic things into your life. Love is all powerful. Toxic people have no power in the face of love. Truth is truth. When you are truly standing in the center of it, nothing can touch you. And people who are also standing in truth will be drawn to you.
Beautiful light is born of darkness,
so the faith that springs from conflict
is the strongest and the best.
Light is the symbol of truth.
Give light, & the darkness will disappear of itself.
Beautiful, insightful comments, and love the poem. Did you write the last words of wisdom?
ReplyDeleteYou are always a good thinker.
Marie - I didn't write any of that. It was written by a woman named Jen who goes by cricket_seeker in my online support group. I don't want to wallow around with all the negativity that occurred in my life as a result of being targeted by 2 narcissistic husbands and a "taker-of-the-cake" boyfriend, but this group has really helped me turn the corner into sanity. I'd like to concentrate on that. That's why I have the quote from Luke 8:36 on my blog. We talked about crazy-makers in Artist's Way, but it took me A LONG time to really GET it. It all helped. Thanks again.
ReplyDeleteI'm stunned by the wisdom in this post. Awesome material..
ReplyDeleteMay I quote the item at the end about light....is that item also by 'Jen?' It fits in beautifully with something I'm working on.
Thanks for creating this blog Kathy ...it is inspiring!
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